Over the years, as I've worked with clients, I've heard people say they weren't sure they wanted to have a reading together. There are usually a couple of reasons people are hesitant. For one thing, they don't want to hear me say the relationship will never work out. Usually when I hear that, it has more to do with issues the couple are already aware of on some level. It scares people to think I might tell them they're wasting their time. The other comment I hear is that they aren't sure they want to have a conversation about their astrology chart in front of their partner. If you are that worried about being transparent and vulnerable in front of your partner, you have deeper issues than whether or not to have an astrology reading. I can assure you I have never told a couple they should just quit while they are ahead, but I have had couples try to use me as an excuse to call it a day!
As with so many things in our lives, not facing an issue is just setting yourself up for failure. As with any system of analysis, there are definitely some indicators of a relationship being easier than others; but who am I to say which relationships will work out and which ones won't? My clients will never hear me say, "it's hopeless." Astrology doesn't tell us if a partnership will last, but it will open up lines of communication. Not only does everyone have preferred styles of communicating, each of us have unique factors that motivate us.
Knowing your partner's "why", sometimes makes all the difference for communicating effectively. When a couple takes time to work with an astrologer, a doorway to understanding can be opened. Synastry also takes into account that a relationship of any kind takes on a third identity - the identity of the partnership, whether it is a couple, a business relationship or a group working together toward a common goal, is unique to the people involved. That third identity, the relationship, can become so overpowering people may forget their own motivation and unique identity. The relationship has a motivation and a drive of it's own. When the individual identity and drive of the two people in that relationship no longer work within the confines that third identity provides, the stress can become too much for some relationships to overcome intact. By exploring the motivation of all the entities involved, it's easier to untangle the subconscious behavior from the issues at hand. Looking at your partner and your relationship from an unemotional, controlled situation is one way to see if there is a way for the people involved to gain control over the relationship, instead of letting the relationship call all the shots.
I'm not a counselor and I don't try to be one. I'm more like a neutral friend that can help people explore all the unique ways we interact when we are alone, verses how we behave when we are interacting with others. Each relationship in our lives can be the opportunity for self discovery. Each partnership and group we touch in our lives allow us to accomplish more than if we were alone. Relationships can uncover wonderful gifts, but with those opportunities come tough lessons. Most people aren't ready for a relationship when we start one, but if we waited until we were ready some of us would never date! That being said, once past the fun part of getting to know someone, we are faced with getting to know what you bring out in each other. Some couples rarely, if ever, take time to sit down and talk when issues aren't so emotional. I provide that space. I allow couples the opportunity to ask each other questions about topics rarely discussed. And then, we look at ways we can better understand each other. Perspective is so important for acceptance. When we know how much our relationship is asking us to grow as individuals, it is easier to accept each other's growing pains.
One of my favorite relationships to look at with synastry is the partnership of Paul McCartney and John Lennon. Looking at their relationship from an astrological point of view really shows the bond between the two of them. Their relationship certainly played out with a triumphant rise to world wide fame, a partnership that shaped a generation, ending with a famous breakup that is still discussed and joked about to this day. For all intense and purposes, the synastry interpretation for John Lennon and Paul McCartney reads like the love story of soul mates. By looking through the lens of astrology, we can see unlimited potential and growing pains that threaten to destroy us. With the understanding of synastry, we are given the opportunity to decide how our story ends.
